Self Belief

Are you holding yourself back because of listening to the negative utterances of others, instead of listening to yourself and believing in yourself? Some of us live this life of uncertainty, always looking for approval from others before making a decision, instead of listening to our own voices, and believing that we can. We need growth in our lives and in order to grow we must have strong self belief, if you believe you can’t, you won’t – but if you believe that you can, you will achieve anything.

A little story about a woman who believed in herself and was very emotionally aware. Imagine this, 1956 her five year old son was admitted to hospital with typhoid, this was on an island in the Caribbean, his mother, was in the same hospital with diabetes, pregnant with her third child. She visited her son in the children’s ward three or four times a day only to watch the boy deteriorate. During the whole time the little boy was ill he was unusually interested in his mother’s pregnancy and would ask his mother on a regular basis when his baby sister was coming, you see, he was certain it was going to be a girl because that was what he wanted and he decided that’s what it was going to be. He just kept on and on about his baby sister and not understanding how things worked he would also ask, “what does she look like mamma, have you got a picture of her. He was so persistent that his mother had to cut out a picture from one of the pages of a magazine and gave it to him just to try and keep him quiet and he held on to that picture like he was holding on to life itself.

As time slowly passed things were getting worse and on one particular day his mother walked into the children’s ward and saw that the staff had placed a red blanket across the bottom of her son’s bed.

In those days a red blanket was used to cover the dead and his red blanket was there ready and waiting as he was expected to die at any moment, what happened next was a life changing moment for both mother and son. Can you imagine the emotions that woman was going through, almost ready to give birth to her third child while the second was on his death bed just five years old and walking through the valley of the shadows of death. Well unlike most people she did not break down and cry nor did she kneel down and pray because that red blanket was like a red flag to a bull, she went straight to the matrons office like a fire breathing dragon and demanded that her son be discharged immediately, their reply to her was that the only thing she is going to take home is a dead body but she did not give up on her son as they had done, just because they could do no more for him did not mean that there was nothing more that could be done, and so she defied the medical profession and took her dying son home still holding the picture, you see that was his reason to stay alive, he was hanging in there because  he had something to live for, he believed that he was going to get a little sister . His mother worked on him day and night and from time to time the boy had fits of delirium, at one point he sat on his bed while repeatedly counting his fingers and saying to his mother that his fingers were falling off. She gave him the love and tender care only a mother could. You could say she gave life to her son twice because she believed in herself, and disregarded professional opinion.

Without any medical training she went where she had never been before, into the  unknown where there was no path to follow but she made her own path and left it for other mothers to follow, she literally snatched her son from the very jaws of death itself and soon after she gave birth to a baby girl just like I said she would, you see, I was that five year old boy.
In this little story you will find the qualities of good leadership, most women are natural leaders although they are not thought of as being so if they are not in a corporate environment or other walks of life where  they are seen as leaders .The lessons to learn here are  Self belief, defiance, emotional awareness, being able to make an evaluation and use that knowledge to make a quick and valid decision to take immediate action which turned out to be life saving. (And it was my life)

It’s not what you’ve done it’s what you can do, if you just believe in yourself.

This is dedicated to the memory of my mother Zipporah Victoria Henry a great woman who installed in me good values and the belief that to transcend our consciousness to a state of true and unconditional love for humanity, and to seek harmony with the universe, will align us with the true purpose designed for us by the great architect of the universe. To attain a level of consciousness that will enable inner peace, therefore making it far easier for us to be at peace with others and will enable us to take our first steps on the path to enlightenment leaving behind us, the limiting beliefs that keeps us in the realm of perpetual mental servitude because of the manipulation of the truth which promotes limitation of our range of human possibilities.

The messenger
(Van Henry)